She’s high-class. Elegant. Sophisticated. Or even “boujee,” as some might call it. Whatever you prefer to call her, one thing is for certain: She’s a high value woman.
But what is it about her that makes her able to walk into a room and captivate an audience that didn’t even realize they were in for such a show? What exactly makes a high value woman… Well, err.. high value? Is it that she’s committed to never missing a hair, nail, nor wax appointment. Or, is it that she’s always laced in the latest and greatest designer pieces?
Contrary to popular belief, being a high value woman has nothing to do with any of that. Rather, it’s about exuding regality and the confidence to go with it. It’s about how you carry yourself. Here are 5 Key Characteristics of a High Value Woman
A High Value Woman is Confident
A high value woman may get called perfect all the time, but she knows that is an absurd accusation; no one is perfect. As a matter of fact, she is well aware of all her flaws and quirks and will be able to point them out before anyone else can. She understands though that it is not about being the prettiest girl in the room. To her, it’s about being unapologetic for how she was created and embracing the totality of all that she is. That includes the good, the bad, and even the ugly.
She Puts in Effort
Being seen as a high-value woman doesn’t take wearing a pound of makeup every day and investing tons of money on cosmetics and clothes. What it does take however, is genuine effort and intentionality. To be even considered high value, people must believe that your outfit selection wasn’t just a product of you taking two minutes to figure out which t-shirt lying on your floor has the least amount of body odor or that your messy ponytail wasn’t just a last resort because you were too lazy for wash day (for the 5th day now).
A high value woman knows that it takes the same amount of time to throw on a nice blouse and some decent pants as it does to throw on sweats and a t-shirt. She may not have money to visit the nail salon every month, but she’ll set aside an hour or two every week to groom her nails. Same with the eyebrows. It takes less than 10 minutes to tweeze those stray hairs, and that can make a world’s difference.
A lot of this should go without saying, but take a shower and wash your face. Shave. Brush your hair (and teeth). Put on body spray/ perfume. Wear clean clothes and properly take care of them so that they don’t get faded/ worn out or produce any stains and holes. Have a good skincare routine. Wear makeup if you deem appropriate (it doesn’t have to be a lot. Mascara and some lip balm can go a long way).
She Has a Great Sense of Style
How one dresses is usually the most associated with high value or the lack thereof. Be not mistaken though, going out and spending a ton of money on new clothes will not automatically make you a high value woman, especially if you lack all the other important attributes such as confidence. Also, it’s not just about buying pieces that are trending. A high value woman’s style is always authentic to who she is, regardless of what other people have to say about it.
She does not get caught up in trying to compete or keep up with the next one. Rather, she embraces her individuality through what she chooses to wear. A high value woman is also as modest as appropriate. This doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s covered head to toe, but it does mean that she is careful not to make a spectacle of her body. She strives for “you look beautiful in that outfit,” instead of “your *insert body part here* looks good in that outfit.” Lastly, a high value woman has mastered the art of dressing appropriately for her body type. She may not have the world’s best figure, but she will learn to dress in a way that flatters her physique.
The High- Value Woman Essential Style Guide
She Has Good Language
Have you ever seen someone that was so attractive…until they opened their mouth? We all have. A woman’s class has more to do than appearance; it has a lot to do with the overall perception. With that, a high value woman usually doesn’t feel the need to use foul language. In moments of extreme frustration or any other intense emotion. She knows how to articulate her thoughts without using demeaning language. Further, she is well-spoken and gives careful, thoughtful, and intelligent speech instead of just speaking to hear herself speak. She knows how and when to hold her tongue and when to speak up for herself and others. And lastly, unless she’s at a concert or party where it’s expected, you’ll never catch her being the loudest, most obnoxious in the room.
And Good Posture
Body language is usually the thing that speaks louder than any word we speak. Given that, it is important to pay attention to what your body language is saying about you. Your posture should say that you are confident and self-assured rather than insecure and uncomfortable. Check out this video on some tips and exercises that can help improve posture.
You don’t need to be particular about the posture tips, but the biggest take away should be that a high value woman is always mindful about what her body is doing. When sitting, she closes her legs. Crossing them at the knee or the ankle is ideal. She sits up straight and avoids slouching. When walking, she holds her head high and looks straight. If she is going to wear heels, she makes sure she can walk well in them. She knows few other things will deduct points from her value than fumbling in a pair of heels, no matter how cute they are.
A High Value Woman is Joyful and Exuberant
These are attributes you may have to do a lot of internal work to achieve, but it is one of the most important. There is nothing high value about walking around looking and feeling miserable or bitter. When you have joy and exuberance, your presence speaks for itself, and people are that much more attracted to you. Joy is about being optimistic rather than being negative all the time. It’s about having gratitude and a positive outlook on life and the future. Joy is not always an easy thing to maintain. Still, a high value woman exudes joy by smiling, practicing positive self-talk, and choosing to feed her mind and spirit with things that will uplift her, i.e, music, sermons, motivational speeches.
All in all, becoming a high value woman has to be a holistic approach. Having the internal things down without the external is only half the task and vice versa. Choose to work on yourself, get to know yourself, and from that place, take care and love on yourself.
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